Houseplants DON’T Thrive On Neglect (But Loads Don’t Like Too Much Fuss)

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I HATE this narrative.

There’s a stark difference between being left the hell alone unless required and being neglected.

There’s also a stark difference between plants that take two years to die and plants that die in a week. Neither is thriving on neglect, one is just hardier than the other.

What I think people mean by plants that ‘thrive on neglect’ fit into five categories.

Plants characteristics that could be misinterpreted as thriving on neglect:

  1. They tell you when they need something
  2. They need watering infrequently
  3. They’re happy with natural humidity levels
  4. They’re low-light tolerant
  5. They grow slowly

The ones that are purported to thrive on neglect, poor things, may well have characteristics that fall into all five categories, and display all the qualities of an easy-care plant.

But easy to care for is NOT the same as ‘thrives on neglect’.

You’d never say that about a human. Just because a person lives on their own, chooses not to socialise, and doesn’t require any special care, doesn’t mean they thrive on neglect.

They still need water and fresh air, however infrequently, to live a full and healthy life.

Ugh, it’s like rabbits living five years out in a hutch – everyone thinks they’re fine because they’re not dead, and then think I’m weird because I keep my bunny in my living room, and are shocked when they live to twelve.

See, I’m mad now.

You reward an easy-care plant with the care it requires, and it’ll grow and grow and grow. If you don’t give it the care it needs, it’ll die, but very slowly. And it gets a ‘thrives on neglect’ label slapped on it.


Even a FAKE plant doesn’t THRIVE on neglect. It’ll look worse over time because it’s getting older and will collect dust and grime.


No shame for wanting an easy-care plant. Read through each of the five categories and see which one fits you best. If you’re still unsure, feel free to email me here, and I’ll help you pick a suitable candidate. Or send me a message on instagram.

Plants that tell you what they need

This is what I like in a plant – one that will have a massive hissy fit and collapse when it needs watering, and then rise up again, like a phoenix from the ashes, when you’ve watered it, and pretend like nothing happened.

So, if you love plants, and are happy to water them, but need a physical reminder to water them, how about trying:

Peace lilies are easy to care for IF you’re going to water then when they droop. Since they like to be kept fairly moist, this might be quite often. You can even grow them in aquariums and never have to water them:

peace lily in aquarium

A MASSIVE bonus of peace lilies is that pests don’t really like them. It’s not that they can’t get pests – the bugs just seem to prefer other plants.

These like to dry out more than peace lilies, and they are as overdramatic when it comes to drooping from lack of water.

Do not get a Syngonium if you panic easily though, because they don’t stand back up as quickly as peace lilies and they look, er, deader.

I’m a big fan of growing syngoniums in terrariums – they really seem to love it in there. Here is a picture of my terrarium. You can’t actually see the syngonium but it still looks cool (it’s at the back behind the wood)!

terrarium with calathea and pothos

Terrariums don’t thrive on neglect but they can suit those of us with an all-or-nothing mindset. I don’t have a diagnosis but exhibit many symptoms of ADHD (I have tips for ADHD and house plants here).

Terrariums can be a nice project that you can really hyper fixate on, but you can also automate the whole thing (lights, foggers, even pest and fungus control with springtails and isopods) so the only maintenance is refilling the humidifier every couple of weeks (and if you forget they maintain their humidity for weeks) and chopping back (that freaking velvet touch is a monster),

  • Oxalis

Also called false shamrock plants. Like Syngoniums, they take their sweet time standing back up again and look REALLY dead when they lie down. They grow from bulbs (or tubers) and sometimes die all the way back n winter.

I’ll let you know if they regrow back in Spring – mine is down to about two leaves at the moment, and I don’t know if it’s part of the natural cycle or if I’ve inadvertently killed it. Still, it’s still blooming, so it can’t be that sad.

Plants that don’t require frequent watering

If you travel, if you’re lazy or just plain forgetful, these are the plants for you:

  • Cacti/succulents

They can go for MONTHS without watering and are very much victims of the ‘thrive on neglect’ narrative.

If you do water your cacti every fortnight/month then you’ll be rewarded with a lot of growth. If you go for the annual watering approach, sure, it won’t die, but it won’t grow, and it almost certainly won’t bloom.

They also need a TONNE of light, which is usually the case. Plants that have evolved to be extremely drought-tolerant tend to come from very arid, exposed areas.

Happy to dry all the way out, as are a lot of philodendron and peperomia. A lot of plants are happy to dry out more than a plant newbie would think. I actually think Peperomia hope is the perfect choice for a house plant beginner.

Most prefer under watering to overwatering.

Again, growth will be limited, because the plant will think water is scarce.

peperomia hope

Plants that don’t require high humidity

This is really dependent on your house, so don’t steer clear of higher-humidity plants until you know what the ambient humidity of your home is. Check out my resources page for a cheap hygrometer.

  • Hoya

If you have a lot of light and humid-ish air, hoya will love you. I have two in probably medium-bright indirect light (bright for an hour per day tops though) in the driest parts of my house and they’re growing happily, even in winter.

Whilst hoya don’t like dry air, they thrive in 40%-60% humidity, which is fairly standard humidity in the home.

hoya bella in bloom

As long as you don’t overwater them, ZZ plants are happy practically anywhere.

  • Dracaena

They do like bright light, but mine is happy in medium light. These also like to dry out between waterings. They grow like mad if they’re watered and in a bright windowsill, but will tolerate being pulled back from the window.

If you give a plant lower light, then it will grow more slowly and therefore need less water. It’s can be a delicate balance though, which is why it’s important to keep an eye on your plants and use a moisture meter to check their soil.

Plants that don’t mind low light

  • Calathea

If you have access to rainwater and have a living room with an ambient humidity of 60%, you could consider Calathea to be easy care.

A lot of people consider them to be picky, because they won’t tolerate tap water, and they go crispy if they don’t get high enough humidity.

I’m not saying they’re objectively easy to care for (that would be a lie), but they could be, if you have the right conditions in your home.

  • Ferns

Ferns are more tolerant of lower humidity than calathea, but expect the odd crispy frond.

Plants that grow slowly

If you live in a big house with a lot of light, fast-growing plants like ferns won’t be a problem for you.

However, they can be for me because they grow quickly (they love the humidity) and they’re not the easiest to cut back.

Plants that grow slowly require less time-consuming care – they don’t need to be repotted often, or cut back, or divided.

  • Succulents

Succulents like burros tails are quite slow-growing indoors because they don’t get the light they need to really get going.

  • Hoya

Hoya just…don’t grow that big. At least not in my experience. It’s just not a plant you ever see massive specimens of.

Older plants

If you want a statement plant that doesn’t require much care, palms and other large plants are often easier to care for than their younger counterparts.

For obvious reasons though, large plant specimens are often pretty pricey.

For a start, they’re more established. They have bigger (and more) leaves so they can photosynthesise very effectively. Their root system is stronger, so they can recover more quickly from pests and fungus infestations.

Big plants are in big pots too – the bigger the pot the more soil, and the more soil the more water the soil can hold. Therefore, you often don’t need to water as often. Some large plants won’t require more than a couple of waterings all throughout the winter. Some examples of large, easy care plants are:

  • Yucca

An awesome statement plant that you can often pick up pretty cheaply. They’re cold and drought tolerant, but they do like to have a lot of light.

  • Monstera deliciosa

An oldy but a goodie. Monstera deliciosas don’t require watering very often anyway and don’t mind drying out a bit. my big old Philodendron golden dragon is the same.

I don’t believe plants thrive on neglect EVER

In fact, I believe they’re mutually exclusive terms – if a plant is thriving it’s not been neglected. Caring for a plant doesn’t automatically mean watering it – it can just be the act of observing it and seeing if it needs anything.

There is no plant that will actually thrive on neglect.

It’s just that often the nurture we give is misdirected, and we think that a snake plant is finicky because it died even though we watered it every day, and yet the cactus that is only watered every three months is fine.

Finding a plant that you can keep alive is all about being honest about a few things:

  • The conditions you can provide within your home – light, warmth, and humidity are the main factors, but also things like seasonal change and draughts. A hoya will not thrive by a window that opened and closed all the time.
  • How much time you’ll invest in learning about plant care, as well as how much time you’re willing to put aside to actually take care of them. If you need to water a plant every three weeks, will you remember/ set a reminder?
  • The condition of the plant when you buy it – a mealybug-infested orchid is already on borrowed time.
  • Your personality – do you want to be a helicopter plant parent, or would you prefer something that can be left for a month or so at a time? Can you invest in humidifiers/grow lights to make your life easier?

Caroline Cocker

Caroline is the founder and writer (and plant keeper) of Planet Houseplant

2 thoughts on “Houseplants DON’T Thrive On Neglect (But Loads Don’t Like Too Much Fuss)”

  1. Wow! That was an awesome post. I am pretty new to the indoor plant world, and it was very informative and much appreciated. You definitely Shift in my thinking.
    I Live in an area of four seasons, and I’m buying my first house. Would love indoor plants, but don’t want any fatalities if possible. I have north facing living room and bedroom, south face and kitchen. I’d love your suggestions! Thank you!

  2. I’d start by getting a few easy-care plants. Aglaonema are beautiful and will like your north-facing rooms. They typically like medium light, so won’t mind a north-facing window. They don’t LOVE tap water, but it won’t kill them. You can get some really beautiful varieties.

    Snake plants and succulents are the obvious choice for a south-facing window, but you could grow a super big monstera there too. They love a lot of light (though introduce them slowly) and are, IMO, pretty hard to kill. Dracaena are another option that will love the light but won’t be difficult to care for.

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